(ENQUIRE) Poliamory or Open Multiple Relationship or Prime Love?

(ENQUIRE) Poliamory or Open Multiple Relationship or Prime Love?

Nowadays feels like people focus more on love than on a format for this quality of love. Which is in general wonderful, that our society and culture evolves to more openness and love sharing. But how is the practice of this love? lets enquire.
Once we love one, we will never stop loving him, her, it, them. To stop loving would be to reppress or suppress underpress  and reject love, which will be a self damage, self hurt. Reason of most of the trauma along or after love relationships is that individuals try to stop loving the lover as for the pain they decide to create as for the separation perceived. But when one realizes there is no separation and one see that love can be lived expressed in other forms, then the pain desapears. The practice of love imply enjoyment and gratefulness for the joy and happiness of the ones we love, and supporting conditions necessary for him, her or them to be happy according to their own choices and preferences. The fact we love some one does not imply a relationship in terms of walking together the lines of the palm of their hands. One can love somebody it does not mean need to be together for ever. Love we do not choose, it takes place, appears, happeneds, but relationship, sex practice and making love practices we can choose.

Here a list of some practices of love, and later on, at the end of this article will be described the practice of love focus of the FOREPLAY SOCIETY.
  1. Unconditional loving care
Some share love with as many in the form of non conditional care, and dedication to their well being, but beside hugging in a loving tender way, that is the gate the stay at.
  1. Love embrace
Some hug each other with deep heart opening love; the love embrace which involves full deep body contact and whole body , self, openness is practiced by many also world wide. While some love relationships stay at that gate of love, others goes beyond. tango, contact improvisation, dance improvisation, and other forms of dances, including some forms of massages, and the 9 dances of love have the love embrace as a practice, while each of them have a different inner quality to work in. there for are different from each other. The time frame of the love embrace is key, as its longer exclusive nature might define a love relationship with one single partner. While practiced in its temporary form, will imply many love huggers.
  1. Open relationship
Beside embracing in love every one we might feel like to, to openly develop parallel track of love with as many as human capacity let us do, is another practice of love. This form of open relationship might feel forced, when some of the lovers are not informed on the open and unpredictable nature of the relationship. While some might prefer an spontaneous “i feel love with you today”lets make love or lets start a relationship straight away… others might take their time and let unfold a more grounded love before including one new as a lover. Eventually some will just consider having sex as the mark of an open relationship.
  1. Empowering Love
To bring love and empowering the love ability of own lovers, giving them the space and freedom to find new love, to evolve in their love relationships is the art of some others. This quality of empowering love, is a form of love, which is not limited by the wish of ‘having a love relationship” but is dedicated to empower in each of the lovers, that could be many in this case, their love ability. It means the source of empowering love will support then have “their own lovers” and develop their relationships. Love trainers would normally apply this form of love for their loving students or followers or circle of lovers.
  1. The love practitioners
Play and taste in order to learn. It is a kind of agreement form which is non exclusive, in terms of love practices, eventually practices at old tantra schools, where mechanical sexual practices will be developed by students or practitioners who will practice with each other, for purpose of learning, advancing own lover skills, reaching new qualities of mechanical sexual experiences which require a certain quality of love, in terms of caring, honoring and being presence in an honest and responsible manner with the lover, or practice companion. Some of these practice circles will request from its participants the practice of detachment as a sign of ability to practice with many. Eventually some of this circle will develop the idea or perception that their practice is a form of love. Mostly follow the intention of developing the capacity to be free in love other practitioners in any moment. Some, on the other hand would choose one single practice companion for some time.
  1. The gods and goddesses of love
In ancient times, the gods and goddesses of love would care for the study and practice of conscious love making, as between each other; and regarding the community they will live at, will support individuals, and couples, lovers, to enhance their abilities to love consciously, but as well support them into their relationship issues. Here comes the perception model or idea for some to be applied that the practice of conscious love making or exercises of other kind with a god or goddess of love would help the lovers discover new stages of love, develop their abilities as lovers, and empower their ability for relationship and family. There for the gods and goddesses of love will care in this form for the development of a healthy practice of love at their regions and development of a culture love based. The gods and goddesses of love in ancient times would not dedicate to create family themselves, and will live as singles while sharing practices and deep levels of expression of stages of love between each other within their own temples or houses. In modern times the gods and goddesses of love dedicate themselves to have family, children and demonstrate also how children and family need to be developed. At the foreplay society some of our members might develop abilities to become gods and goddesses of love, at stage 9 of love practice, in any of both modern and ancient practices. It os dedicated to the family.
  1. Love Play Circle
A close circle of lovers dedicated to explore in collective love making, means more than one women and or man, will practice together. the basic form of this love is that of a 3some. A play circle might have a temporary nature, as for the practice of swing clubs, or a more longer dedication as for play circle communes (shared house), or play circle members would meet at certain scheduled dates for the practice of love. In Rome and Greek times, as well as in many other cultures these practices were developed. The Love Play Circle imply agreement.
  1. Love-Orgia
An orgia very old practice that suggest a sexual union with more than one lover, along a period of time of one day or more continuous days, but does not imply any form of relationship status or development of such as in (6). Its practice in the form of love, would be different of quality and redefine the meaning of the term “orgia” as for a spontaneous love making practice with more than one person, that joined this type of event. Practices at ancient cultures like rome and greece as well. The conditions to join are the agreement to be open to play or not play love.
  1. Poliamory
The idea of love practiced with more than one love partner, in case of poliamory suggest the lovers will be informed on the nature of the open relationship, and consciously accept the freedom of their poliamory practice, in the sense that the alpha couple or alpha play circle, will welcome new lovers for their members for long term or temporary term, according to the agreement set by the poliamory couple or play circle. It is a transparence practice. While it might vary in its inner forms of being expressed. Some enjoy an open door love which means make love in a shared space where all lovers are welcome to observe and experience the love making practice, or a closed door frame which means a making love with one lover will be practiced in privacy, at the same house or eventually not at the same house. The poliamory practice could be centered in one alphas couple, and bethas lovers or even gamma a love encounters (reflecting on wolves society and pack at its basic form of practice) or could evolve from a play circle point of view in which there are no alphas, nor betha nor gamma, but equality, in terms of centre for the relationship. If poliamory relationship share one house or not is not defining the nature of their love practice. The poliamory practice might include all types of love forms, eventually not sexual ones.
9. Multiple marriage 
Where one male marriage many females or one female marriage many males, or many males marriage together many females. The multiple marriage will create a a frame for the relationship in an exclusive format. where no additional lovers would be included. It is a form of family that is defined by its exclusive format. Where all family members love each other. The degrees of love are not questioned, but as in any marriage the commitment and dedication to the family, multiple couples. It imply also having children and caring for them. A soft form of the multiple love is the modern community where all members care for each other and for the children. This modern form of community, suggest every man and woman of the community to be a father and mother of any children of the community, The vision of this kind of family-practice is key. In the modern community-family, the shared love making practices is not an agreement but we couples might start relationships, have children and break within the community without leaving the community, it means keeping the stability of the family, and finding a new love within the community as well. A sense of love stability and exclusivity is defined by multiple marriages and family-communities.

Here now the introduction to Prime Love

Is the practice of self worth, self care, self nurturing, foundation for joy, happiness and freedom; developed based on union within of own inner male and female principles. The individual foundation of union in one self, union with the source of all that is, in own heart and all expressions of own consciousness. (see 9 stages of love)
The practice of self love is key for changing the perception of a love relationship as that one that give us the experience of love, joy and happiness. As well as  fundamental for realizing that love making is not limited to the experience of the body but of the heart, should and inner divine source (see 3 stages of the golden sphere of love).
Self love applied at family, culture, nation or global level would imply a change of the self expression of the development practices, it will define strategies for life care, life sustainability, and heritage that matches the feeling and intention of self love. Self love would change our world ( see 9 roses of love, 9 levels of practice according the collective self awareness ).
PEACE & LOVE – All you need is love campaign developed by the FOREPLAY SOCIETY
Is dedicated to suggest the practice of meditative conscious love making, with the heart, as the path for peace, life care, heritage and sustainable living in our modern world, the upgrade of culture into a culture based on peace and love as for the individuals understanding of life principles, laws and nature coming out of the experience of the practice of meditative conscious love making.
The practice of prime love, imply dedication to love and and self love with awareness of the organic light tissue. This particular awareness is developed through the practice of the 9 dances of love.  For prime love the term love integrates in itself tow dynamic: love for others and self love, but as well prime yoga, meditative conscious love making, union with the source of all that is have been and will be within our hearts.
The organic light tissue 
The purpose and function of the bound of love, the sensitivity of it regarding lovers behaviour, choices, states of consciousness, self transformation, preferences, dedication and commitment to the love relationship will be the key for the development of the relationship. It means the references is what does the lovers cocreate as for the organic light tissue creates a womb, that is nurtured by all they are and do, think, feel, choose, prefer in any moment. (see Golden Family)
Focus, Key
The golden womb of prime love is a womb of cocreation, manifestation, the practice of prime love is dedicated to cocreation, as for its divine nature; from conscious children conception to cocreation of arts, projects, community and culture, nation and history. The reference for choices and behaviour, is the stability of the golden prime womb. For example: when the golden prime womb becomes unestable or the nurturing substances flow away of it as for one of the lovers flirt or engage own attention to another individual or lover or event or possibility, the energy assigned to care and nurture the golden prime womb is shifted to another womb created with another lover. Which creates the unestability of the prime golden womb.
Relationship Frame
Practices of love described at 1,5,9 are aware of the golden womb and dedicate themselves to care for it, by applying own practices and methods. agreements on rules discipline, self-awareness, emotional self management, decision making that will be dedicated to care for the prime golden womb stability there for the unfolding of the cocreative process and manifestation. The cocreative force starts from an inner vision of the heart, at any stage of love it might be applied, and can be called a dream or pulse or field or morphic field, or frequency and pattern or template, blue print that defines the creation, or manifestation.
While in order to reach the choice or preference of prime love, its practitioners might have had several of other experiences (0-9), most of the prime lovers have borned with the sensitivity and live their lifes looking for prime love
Mystic Love to Prime Love
The practice of prime love imply the interest into the experience of mystic love and integration of it as practice for lovers, conscious love making, prime yoga, union with the source of all that is. Following the 5 development stages and 9 stages of love.
Development of the prime golden womb
Its practice will imply that for example, one of the strategies would be to prepare with cocreative dream and vision, the idea of the wished manifestation (as we said, a child, project, or culture or social event) and for one year align own self to its creation, then by the practice of conscious love making and applying the cycle of nature of the sun and the moon, reach he point of conception, then nurturing gestation, birth, life care and sustainable development of the manifestation.
The practice of prime love focus on conscious self awareness and honesty regarding how, when, with whom is cocreated and what is cocreated (see 9 stages of love9 jewels of love9 roses of love9 fields of love5 development stages3 golden sphere of love stages)
The ability of the lovers to care for the prime golden womb is key to define the form of the love relationship, If the lovers are capable to create a multiple marriage or practice as gods and goddesses of love or expand the love embrace to a love relationship
Choosing a lover
For example if both lovers in a couple have the ability to care responsibly for the prime golden womb at all stages of its development will be then the right match, but what if one of them is capable to develop responsible only one or two stages? How to know? the preliminary time of love before the starting point of process of manifestation should be dedicated to evaluate if the lovers are capable of the practice of the prime golden womb or not at all stages necessary and of the enhancement of this ability.
The choice of a lover is defined by the lover ability to practice responsibly the art of cocreation, manifestation, at all its stages
Preliminary Practices
The art of meditative conscious love making is the main practice, as for the preliminary practices for its enhancement ( see the 9 roses of love, the 9 fields of lovepreliminary practices @ the FOREPLAY SOCIETY )
May love and self love nurture the golden culture of human kind.

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When interested or curious about the field of the work, one must immediately take self responsibility.

If you are curious about love making, the 9 dances of love will bring you to the core essential principles of life in relation to love making but as well to a deeper self knowledge, of your soul, of your divine self.

There is a journey for you there, at the field of the work. But then, how do you feel about the possibility to experience self love and love, while making love. Would that meditative conscious love making with the divine heart change anything in your life?

To taste means to know…but what if you are not ready to taste? how to know if you are ready and what to be ready means?



One of the most important challenges of humanity is fear, as in its many forms, creates separation between ourselves, our life process, the clarity of our own status or condition and situations or circumstances that triggers a mirror in us.

Life in principle is a mirror that call in us for self-responsibility over our perceptions, pattern of thinking, and doing.

Within the space of interaction between our own male and female inner selfs, and our past, present and future, at that instant, there is one field in which we need to be completely honest.

Unless that honesty is there one will follow any kind of distraction created by our fears or subconscious mind, that will drive us away from the truth.


Knowledge is not information, nor experience nor a point of view nor a concept nor scientific register of matter conditions or process. Knowledge and wisdom as love and self love take place when  a state of the mind and heart and whole being is there. A state of consciousness.

A non dual approach to life will embrace both sensation of comfort and discomfort, as both of them having the same taste. How could that be possible? for that answer one must reach a non dual state.

But what about feelings? if one feels does not want to do something and any way do? or if one prefers something better than other thing? or if one …

There are always for all things in life reasons why our intellect, family patterns, culture or any other idea, concept or preference will tell us to avoid certain experiences or people. If ourselves can not handle even the idea to go there, then one should not go.


When people do act or choose out of kindness (social politeness), or because of friends that went there (inclusion), or  because would like to please others ( putting other as reference for own choices) then in the field of the work, by behaving in this mode, making choices in this approach, one risk to make a great mistake.

The mistake is to avoid to listen something else within. As honesty must be first, and the ability to do what feels right. No matter how the world like our choices or not, or if the world falls out of our choice.

The ability to listen challenge us in the ability to do according to our inner heart without caring of any social, cultural or intellectual convention.

When one acts in this field of honesty, one can reach clarity as for the following experiences to unfold, on what we do actually prefer. This clarity is key as then and only then we can see, sense, experience, who we are and what we do.

Once this point have been reached, the idea of non dual perception, action, being, makes sense, otherwise it would become only a simple concept far in the distance from your possibilities.

3. MIND, HEART OR DIVINE PERCEPTION? conceptual spirituality vs spiritual experience

But the mind is not the final end of the road. The intellect can create many frames, even non dual frames which will give the illusion of reaching non duality as for the play with ideas but not on the core experience of yourself and of life.

One must go beyond the intellect, the mind in order to know. When at the field of experience one sense own self being, and sense with own heart, then one knows immediately what is all about.


The mystical experience of the heart is non conceptual, but can be easily described by using symbolic language, and must, as language is integrated to life and nature of self possibility.

The creational force of the heart, its ability of manifestation thanks to the integration of both male and female, in a state of joy and gratefulness, self love and love for all that is as it is.

Divine perception embraces all that is… now ask yourself, can you?

While a trainer or teacher can be in a state of divine perception, does he/she/it  needs to embrace you? yes, as an expression of love, but how would that embrace look like? for each case is different… as love for you at your stage in your journey must take a form necessary for the next stage… you are different than others, why would you need the same?  but from your side, before you wish for anything coming out of your teacher or trainer you must first know how you feel and if it is the right time for you to  join the work, it means…can you embrace or intent to embrace and love all in yourself? if you have not even arrived to this question, then you must.

If the answer to the question is NO. then you must know at the field of the work you will be requested to, as the path we walk is into divine perception and action, the ability to embrace in self love and love all that you are, is mandatory. If you are ready to build that ability up and along the process know yourself or you do not prefer to do so, at this point in time before you enter the field of the work, you must know.


The preliminary practices and introductory experiences have been designed for you to experience yourself within the field of the work, and know, choose, decide if you are ready and feel right about the journey and your relationship with the instructor, trainer or teacher.

You need to taste in order to know, the field of the work, through preliminary or introductory experiences. But if does not taste good now, then it is not the right time for you. If you feel conflict, then listen to it and take time for yourself in your life to feel that conflict and work it out, if not through preliminary practices, through own life.

It is your responsibility to choose and decide if you feel right in all you do. as well as your right to feel right now and not right later. While consistency is necessary, individual consciousness, and status change, there for life also change, and relationship to the field of the work also change.

At certain point you will realize that so far your shifts between likes and dislikes create your reality and changes in it, or your world limits its self to only what you prefer in polarity to what you do not prefer, then your choice will be still half of the reality you are. How do you pretend to be happy  with only half of yourself?


Non dual approach helps our perception to be clean and objective. The process necessary to reach non dual perception is within each individual available, the condition is honesty regarding what all that is, have been and will be is. The truth on human conditions and nature of life.

The likes or dislikes, preferences, comfortable or not comfortable feelings, belong to our own dual perception of our inner experiences and outer conditions or life process and perceptions.

But perception is still operating in the field of the mind unless is perception of the heart or of our consciousness. When you see with the eyes you know how it feels, but it feels different if you see with your whole being or more different if you see with the mind, but when you see with your heart, you know how the quality of experience changes, now do a step beyond and see with divine heart.


Starting for the ability to embrace our own strength and weakness, perfection and un-perfections, light and darkness as both sourced from the same core, our own inner heart, the heart centre that is the origin and destiny of our life, the pulsing centre that recreated our body and experience of life, our consciousness field.

By knowing individual nature beyond its organic qualities but by knowing its totality, its 100%, not only its matter disassociated from consciousness, feeling, emotions, intellect, mind and time but no time; one can reach by all means the state of seeing both sides of perception, there at that edge, where the light and darkness have been seen together, when the sun does not blind us from the truth nor the moon blind us from the nature of its light, nor the light blind us from its shadows, at that point of consciousness, one might be at that instant capable to see the truth of own self.

This process of knowing own self is necessary and can not be done with a dislike or not preference that blind you or a like or preference that blind you, it must be objective, regarding the nature of both, which is requires from the individual not only self observation,  under several circumstances, but as well of a centre stable in a state of consciousness which is non dual, and beyond non dual, which is heart based and beyond, divine based.

7. HEART is not a caring thing

The Heart based love is not a caring flow that tries no one to suffer and to heal everything and that every one feels good. The heart is beyond feeling good or not good. The heart knows that for living a life the human consciousness need to be upgraded and unless a shift takes place, the spoiled child will always be spoiled and the thin skin will be always thin.

The heart must love and self love, in the raw nature of all that is, of all we are, and embrace it all, but also know that for the path and living @ the field of the work, certain level of self confidence, and self respect,  self worth,  self care, self-awareness, self trust, self enjoyment, self alignment with divine source is necessary.

Eventually empowering experiences will become transformational and one will change, reaching a new level of strength and abilities to love, beyond caring for the one to be loved to feel fine or not with our love and life.

Once a child has learned the fire burns, there is no need for the parents to repeat or forbid. But would you help the child to learn it or let it alone for exploring whole life on fire?

There is a time for everything, and for certain experiences too long time isnt necessary.  Or are you still trying to find out if fire burns?


Self-experience is necessary, but if self motivation and self alignment isnt there, your choices for self experience will be as limited as your motivation and intention.

In the field of the work, a trainer, instructor or teacher will bring you closer to the possibility to experience and if your find self motivation you will do experience, then learn what is necessary to be learned at each step of your journey.


The answer is always the same, be honest. What is that sensation of comfort or lack of comfort? where it comes from? which is that edge? what is there beyond? why would you like to experience or explore yourself for a moment on the edge of beyond, what can you learn from the experience, which is the state of consciousness  you have while asking, do you love yourself and embrace all yourself or just love some parts of yourself. How to reach non dual perception if can only embrace little bits of yourself. If your whole self is not involved in your own journey, how can you claim you travel at all?


You start by experiencing yourself, the field of life where your own life is taking place.

The Rose of Love: The Method, Its rules, preliminary practices and edge zones

The Rose of Love: The Method, Its rules, preliminary practices and edge zones